Your words help me so much. I really love your blog. This post couldn't be more timely. I recently let someone go out of my life (for different reasons) because they aren't ready to change and probably never will be. Thanks for reinforcing I did the right thing.
Ready or Not?
For CrossFit, for change, for love, for life, for lots of things new and untried.
Remaining the same is safer, and more comfortable.
Let them be.
What? Isn’t that wrong? Shouldn’t I be telling you to go after them? To pursue them and convince them that this is the best thing for them? That CrossFit will save their life?
They have to be ready to take the first step. You can’t take it for them. You can only keep living your life. You can’t live theirs too. Help them if they want your help. Walk away if they don’t.
It will be hard, really hard, but you have to do it. For yourself, and (in a way) for them. People don’t change because you want them to change. They change because they are ready to change.
So, work on the only person you can change: yourself. Live the best life you can. And, if someone asks for your help, give it with all your heart, because now maybe they are ready . . .
Your timing for this post is impeccable. I visited with a friend this weekend who had no interest in CrossFit, or going to any gym and getting in shape, for that matter. I tried to explain to her how CrossFit is different and better than anything she's ever experienced, and how motivating it is, and she answered with "I'm not like you. I don't need that kind of thing. Other things drive me in life and I don't have time for working out." I've struggled with this conversation and how it went. Struggled with how much I should try to convince her, or let it go. This helps. My husband raved about CrossFit for a year before I gave it a go, b/c I thought what I was doing (workout videos) worked perfectly fine, and no kind of working out could really be that great and addicting. I had no idea what I was missing. But it took me in my time to find it. And I'm so glad I opened my mind and tried it!
It's not easy. I've struggled with this issue so much -- I want to help EVERYONE. But sometimes you have to let go of those who can't or won't, and focus on those who can and will. Maybe your friend will get there. Give her time.