The B**** Mode

Lisbeth Darsh CrossFit, Essays, Fitness, Life, Mindset


There’s this person we become when we decide that simply surviving our workout is not enough.

It’s another level, another gear, another mindset. It’s when we look at the person next to us and think “I want to beat them.” It’s not enough to simply finish. We want to finish well. We want to do more, achieve more, be more.

This mode has different names: some folks call it Game Face or Beast Mode. But for some of us, it’s Bitch Mode.

Now, some of you might be shying away from the word “bitch.” You don’t like to be called one, you’ve been schooled never to act like one, you hate to even hear that word because so many times in this life, it’s been used by folks to try to keep you down. “Don’t be a bitch.”

But you know what? Who cares?

Words only have the power we give them. Think about that, for a moment. The word “bitch” only has the power we give it. So when we hear it used as a noun or as a verb and it’s used negatively, against us or someone else — well, we gave it that power. We shied away from it. “Oh no, I don’t want to be called a bitch.”

Well, f*** that. Let’s take it back. Now. Bitch is our word. Our word.

Ladies, when you step into the gym today and you hear the “3-2-1-Go!” I want you to find your inner bitch.

I want you to find her and tap into her and become her for 20 min or whatever time that workout takes.

  • Don’t be nice.
  • Don’t be polite.
  • Don’t be what society tells you to be.

Just for those 20 minutes. Be who you need to be to get the job done well. Be who you need to be to achieve what you want to achieve. Dig deep, go hard, go all out. Go balls to the wall even if you don’t have any balls.

Life is short. These moments are dying in our hands. Grasp them and live — really live — now.

Then, afterward, you can be nice and polite and sweet. We want that, we need that, we love that from you.

But for a few minutes today – during that workout – let your inner bitch fly. Let her fight and persevere. Let her conquer.

Because it’s okay. You’re safe here. Let’s see what you can really do.

Lisbeth Darsh CrossFit, Essays, Fitness, Life, Mindset

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