It’s not. It never was, and it never will be. This is how we learn: we get burned. And that’s okay. Pain is the price we pay: physical, mental, spiritual.
You don’t want the cheap lesson. You don’t want to do what everybody else does. You don’t want the big soft pillow catching your big soft ass when you fall. You won’t get smarter that way; you’ll only get dumber. And do you really want to go through life like that? No.
And if it doesn’t? Move on, quickly. You’re paying the wrong price. Find the schoolhouse, not the foolhouse.
(And, yes, this is my Jesse Jackson voice.)