“Hold yourself responsible for a higher standard than anybody else expects of you. Never excuse yourself. Never pity yourself. Be a hard master to yourself, and be lenient to everyone else.” — Henry Ward Beecher
Think about that for a moment.
We often pride ourselves on being hardasses. But, what is the difference between a hardass and an asshole? We call ourselves the former, but we call other people the latter. Also, often we see merit in the actions of the hardass (“She’s firm, but fair”), and we see no such justification for the actions of the asshole (“He’s just a jerk”).
But my point here is that perhaps we should always be harder on ourselves than others. Don’t just set the standard. Live the standard.