Are You Asking the Right People?

When you need advice on a lift or a movement or life, who do you ask? Someone successful at those things? Or someone struggling? Think about it.Many people ask only their peers: the people trying to find success also.

• "Hey, how do you think I can get better at my pull-ups?"
• "Where am I missing this clean?"
• "My husband drives me nuts too! What should I do?"

It's comforting to ask those struggling too. They are like you. Same boat. Same troubles. They can feel your pain.But is it wise? Will you get the answers you really need? Will you get the advice that will propel your performance to new heights?Not always. You'll get sympathy, and maybe something useful. It's hit and miss. But if you damn sure want to be successful at something, then find someone who has proven experience at getting the results you seek and ask them, bug them, until they help you.This isn't brain surgery. But if it was and you wanted to be really good at brain surgery, you would ask a successful brain surgeon, right? You wouldn't ask an accountant. Or the clerk at Costco.So why do we do those things? Why do we not ask the successful?Because we're scared. Our ego wants to be patted and rubbed, not told to GTF out of the way. Talking to achievers can feel threatening because they have done what we want to do but have failed at. We might feel small in front of them. But, believe it or not, many of them actually want to share what they know. They want to help. But folks are intimidated to ask them what to do.Don't be that person. Don't be the guy or gal who only wants comfort for staying down, who settles for company in their unhappiness.Be the person who succeeds. Ask the successful. Surround yourself with the successful. They'll tell you their secrets if you'll listen. If you want to improve in the gym, ask your coach. If you want to improve in your life, ask someone who has their sh** together.Ask and ye shall receive. So be damn sure of who you're asking, or you might receive the wrong thing.